Thursday, December 27th, 2012
How To Handle A Compliment (Part 1)
The Set Up
Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.
Proverbs 16:24 (NKJV)
The crucible is for silver and the furnace for gold, and each is tested by the praise accorded him.
Proverbs 27:21 (NAS)
A flattering mouth works ruin.
Proverbs 26:28 (NKJV)
I have been uncomfortable with compliments. I was hesitant to receive them and sometimes stumbled for answers. Did this reaction come from a poor self-image because I forgot that Christ is in me? Or was it something else?
'Some people absolutely love receiving praise because it lifts their spirits and makes them feel valuable. Others are uncomfortable with it. They look down at their feet or offer reasons why they really don't deserve such praise. For Christians, there's another dilemma. We're called to be humble, so what are we to do when others say good things about us? Because pride is always waiting to raise its ugly head' (Dr. Charles Stanley for the Christian Post*).
'For every person who can handle success, there are a thousand who can handle failure. As bad as it hurts to be on the bottom, sometimes it hurts worse to be on top. Praise brings with it four unseen dangers: 1) It may cause us to believe we are better than we really are, 2) It may lead us to think we deserve what we have, 3) It may blind us to our own weaknesses, and 4) It may lead to a place where we no longer think we need the Lord.
Praise may cause us to end up in the crucible, a fiery furnace where our motives will be severely tested and all that is false in us will be completely exposed' (Dr. Ray Pritchard, Crosswalk*).
'If you have enough people sitting around telling you you're wonderful, then you start believing you're fabulous, then someone tells you you stink and you believe that too!' (Angelina Jolie).
'I do not receive honor from men' (Jesus, in John 5:41). But Jesus did receive honor from God: 'Blessed is He who comes in the Name of the Lord!' Hosanna in the highest!' (Matthew 21:9).
Which brings up a key question in handling a compliment: Who is giving it?
To Be Continued...
*Dr. Stanley's link: http://www.christianpost.com/news/how-to-handle-praise-75816/#rS77XhgyZgmrhuJx.99
*Dr. Pritchard's link: http://www.crosswalk.com/blogs/dr-ray-pritchard/praise-can-you-handle-it-1274518.html