Carey Lewis Devotions
Friday, September 16th, 2016
Judgment (Part 30)
Overbearing Wives
It is better to live in a corner of the roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
Proverbs 25:24 (NASB)
The wife must see to it that she respects her husband.

Ephesians 5:33 (NASB)
Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman.

1 Corinthians 11:3 (NASB)
When I was a girl, I was strong-minded. True enough, I was hardly disciplined. Also true, I had no meek example. When I was a wife, I was contentious. But because I'd never read the Bible, I didn't know the Lord's code of conduct. I was sure I was right and he was wrong.

Looking back, I could plead my ignorance. Looking forward, wives would become bosses of companies, families and husbands.* My former political correctness (because bossy ladies are now the norm, and I was among those deemed successful) is giving way to godly submission.

Humility is my aspiration. I've not yet achieved this elegant goal, but I'm getting closer to my Model.

Actors, models and talent for Christ: Applause is highly overrated, especially for worldly customs. Like the modern cultural standard of commanding, overbearing wives, who lead their men on verbal leashes. But when husbands follow their wives' lead, God's good order is turned right-side down.

One result? Men may seek their freedom and families are torn asunder.

One solution? Men, be gentle, wife-loving leaders. Wives, be respectful and follow them.

One sure victory? Stay in God's Word.

To Be Continued...

* The Bible gives examples of lady bosses, like Deborah, the valiant judge and prophetess of Israel. Even the Proverbs 31 wife was a successful business woman, but both still honored their husbands and the leading men in their days.

I fully understand how women can be called to lead, even how they can be forced to lead by circumstances beyond their control. I believe strong women should be praised. Even so, strength is proven in submission. While Jesus demonstrated this principle throughout His 33 years on earth, I'm still working to learn it. I believe women in leadership positions should respect and follow their husbands. If they have no husbands, they should work diligently to stay in submission to God, Who will surely lead, protect and provide for them when asked.

* Jewish recounting of the story of Deborah:

P.S. To read the other devotions in this series, please see the Judgment series.

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"I labored, yet not I. By the grace of God, I am what I am, and do what I do' (paraphrase of 1 Corinthians 15:10). I love God's Word. As a late-in-life committed Christian with no Bible training prior to age 51, some people wonder how I'm qualified to write devotions. I wonder that, too. But God loves children and fools for Him. I am both. Ghost Writer? God.

Carey Lewis

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