Here is a trustworthy saying: Whoever aspires to be an overseer desires a noble task. Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God's church?)
Children, obey your parents. Wives, respect your husbands. Husbands, love your wives... and lead them. In this age of broken and redefined families, men have lost their drive. Too many sit in passenger seats while women steer. Both dream of better days.
In the shame of man's displacement, many avoid the family car and prefer a different ride: a job, a mistress or an addiction; their hobbies or their friends. Some men decide to trash the old model; others trade in it or abandon it altogether. Children are left without fathers; mothers are stressed to the max.
I offer two observations: The first comes from my own experience, and it is politically incorrect--even within most churches. With a few noteworthy exceptions, women were created to help men, not lead them.
By design, women are more easily moved. Mostly, it's a great thing. When babies cry, when neighbors need, when husbands lack, women jump into action. They are high-intensity, multi-tasking, tirelessly-enduring helpmates. Jesus proved serving is leading, so this role is no small matter.
The bad side of 'more easily moved' was evidenced by Eve. Without due diligence or proper consultation, she jumped into Satan's action. As countless men would later do, Adam followed her lead and fell. When questioned, he tried to blame her. God didn't agree.
The second observation comes from my son-in-law and the excellent examples of family men I have seen. Men, no matter what your wife or children do wrong, you have no one to blame but yourselves. So embrace God's Word, study His examples, follow His advice... and lead.
Actors, models and talent for Christ: consider two conclusions: 1) Within your families, be careful to play the roles God directs. If you don't, your roles in the world will be compromised; 2) When you become a star, people will study your life. Your harmony at home will give them an example, a future and a hope.
To Be Continued...
P.S. To read the other devotions in this series, please see the Leadership series.