Wednesday, February 24th, 2016
Parent Traps (Part 5)
Caught Bill & Carey
Now this is what the Lord Almighty says: 'Give careful thought to your ways. You have planted much, but harvested little. You eat, but never have enough. You drink, but never have your fill. You put on clothes, but are not warm. You earn wages, only to put them in a purse with holes in it... You expected much, but see, it turned out to be little. What you brought home, I blew away. Why?' declares the Lord Almighty. 'Because of My house, which remains a ruin, while each of you is busy with your own house.'
Haggai 1:5-6,9 (NIV)
Looking back at my ex-husband and me, (college sweethearts married 30+ years), I give us a grade of 'C' as parents. Bill is intellectually brilliant: a child who learned to read at two years old and is now a family physician. I was his high-reaching, sharp-speaking wife, committed more to my work than to him.
We didn't read, pray, seek or speak God's Word. The burden of two demanding careers, the absence of two overworked parents, the fallout from two embittered spouses, left our two daughters at a deficit. We wanted their happiness and success, but didn't know the Who or how of it.
On the parental scorecard, here's my take:
1. When they were small, we were a close-knit group.
2. I believe our girls knew that we loved them.
3. We tried to nurture their gifts and talents.
On the minus side is much, including:
1. As they grew, parental discipline shrunk.
2. We gave them cool stuff, but less and less time.
3. Our house was a disrespectful war zone.
Our girls belong to Generation Y, more commonly known as Millennials: an age of digital technology, an age of online communication, an age exposing graphic sensuality, an age pressing kids to grow up quickly, an age promoting self-entitlement, an age pushing instant satisfaction, an age where entertainment became king.*
Actors, models and talent for Christ: it's time to understand our parents.
To Be Continued...
* Interesting article: The Six Living Generations in America: http://www.marketingteacher.com/the-six-living-generations-in-america/
P.S. To read the other devotions in this series, please see the Parent Traps series.