Carey Lewis Devotions
Thursday, December 26th, 2013
The Straight Up Word (Part 8)
A Woman's Role
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
Proverbs 31:30 (NKJV)*
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything... Let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Ephesians 5:22-24,33 (NKJV)
My father used to say of my mother, 'Millie agrees with the last thing she heard.' I now confess the same tendency--which led me to research and reflection.

After 31 years as a successful woman in business, after 31 years of a toe-to-toe boxing match with my former husband, I found Christ--and continue to study His Word and our world. Here's my politically incorrect opinion: women are more easily led than men. Not always, not in every case, but often.

Because we're led by the heart. It's in our genetic design. God has a perfect plan.

A baby's cry makes us turn. A friend's cry makes us mourn. Our husband's cry compels us to help, follow and defend our families with more strength than is humanly possible. We are indefatigable helpers. We are servant-leaders. Jesus says that's a high position.

Our easily moved hearts are a gift, but this asset can become a liability without guidance. Consider Eve. She was tempted by Satan. His word seemed good to her--more attractive than God's Word. He was a con artist and she bit his bait. Unfortunately, Adam followed his wife instead of His Lord--and the rest is history. But it should not be forgotten.

Here's the right order: God is man's Boss, and man should consult God first. A husband is his wife's boss, and she should consult him first. A wife respects her husband. A husband loves his wife. The woman is elevated by her submission. God has a perfect plan.

But America has a different plan: women often call the shots. I did. As a boss, my head and heart lived in a state of war--like two horses pulling in different directions. I wasn't meant to drive them alone. As a wife, I was contentious--but that's a different story.

Girlfriends: if you are married, let your husband lead. It's his natural role and the proper order. If you head your own household or company, God will equip you for the job. All the more, let God lead you Himself, and He will. But follow Him closely and directly. Go to His straight-up Word.

To Be Continued...

* The Book of Proverbs ends with an ode to a virtuous wife. Consider all of her occupations and virtues:

P.S. To read the other devotions in this series, please see the The Straight Up Word series.

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"I labored, yet not I. By the grace of God, I am what I am, and do what I do' (paraphrase of 1 Corinthians 15:10). I love God's Word. As a late-in-life committed Christian with no Bible training prior to age 51, some people wonder how I'm qualified to write devotions. I wonder that, too. But God loves children and fools for Him. I am both. Ghost Writer? God.

Carey Lewis

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